Everyone thought it would never last. I’m sure some were actually betting on it. She’ll never stay with him. He’s not good enough for her. What is she thinking? She won’t leave. She’s too close with her family. What about her friends? She’s got a nice job.
Let’s address all these points, shall we?
Twenty-four years later…I think that answers the question about it not lasting.
The bets…well, I can’t be positive about that. But, I know people were talking. Frankly, the talk was more about me and what was going on in my head. At the time, it was all about breaking free so I could live life on my terms. If I had stayed, I would never have married. Moving away was the best decision I ever made.
I’ll never stay with him. I’m still here and very happy, thank you very much!
He’s not good enough for her…let me say this about that. Is there any man that is ever good enough for someone’s little girl. Please. If I had any inclination that my choice was not good enough, believe me, I would have shown him the door a long time ago.
What is she thinking? What am I thinking?!?!?! You’re kidding me, right? I’ll tell you what I was thinking. I was thinking that someone actually was interested in me and wanted me for his wife. I thought I would ever get married. I thought I would be a lonely old spinster with cats. I’d be the neighborhood Cat Lady. Thank goodness that didn’t happen!
She won’t leave. Sorry…I left! It was bittersweet, but I left.
She’s too close to her family. Yes, I am close with my family. But that doesn’t mean that I can’t have my own life. I love my family, but I knew that I would never be happy if I had stayed. I wanted a life and I got one…on my own terms, not someone else’s.
She’s got a nice job. Yes, it was a nice job, but it wasn’t the job. In fact, I’ve had many jobs since then and none have been the job. But I have a plan and I am working the plan. I am writing and I am happy. What could be better than that?
So do I get the last laugh? Probably. But there are so many other factors that have gone into making this happen. I call them the “What If’s”, the choices that I made to get to this point. I’ve learned so much along the way and don’t have any regrets.
Going forward I know what I want to do and I am so lucky that I have the most supportive man in my life. He is truly the best thing that ever happened to me. He is my Forever Love. This month is our anniversary (together for 24 years and married for 19 of those years!) and we will be spending it and my birthday in one of my favorite places, Pismo Beach.
***I have written this piece for a group on Facebook that I recently joined, GBE 2: Blog On. Interested in more...click on the picture below to take you there.
What a nice story and what a nice tribute to your man! I love how you tell us your story and now I know you just a little bit better. That is a good thing. Well done.
ReplyDeleteI love this--I can relate on a lot of levels. It was rumored buy never confirmed that they gave us only 3 years. I never understood it? Anyway 16 years later---I think we've passed that 3 year mark a couple of times over! Cheers, Jenn
ReplyDeleteLovely post, which all goes to shows that you shouldn't take any notice of what other people say but simply go with your heart.
ReplyDeleteIt's astounding what other people think they know about YOUR life...
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your upcoming anniversary. I'm sure quite a lot of people will relate to those critical comments made about you and your partner.
ReplyDeleteSuch a wonderful post, thank you for sharing it with us!
ReplyDeleteGreat post. Congrats on 24 happy years.
ReplyDeleteLike Paula said, it's always wise to follow your heart and make up your own mind. You're living proof!
ReplyDeleteIt has worked so well because it was your choice. Congratulations on 24 happy years!!
ReplyDeleteKathy
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Lovely post.Would have fitted with last weeks post, instinct, too. You followed your heart and your instinct and it was right for you. In the end, that's what matters, doing what is right for you, no matter how much advice, how much love, comes from those around you.
ReplyDelete...a lonely spinster with cats you are not! Congratulations and Happy Anniversary! Enjoy your time at Pismo! It sounds like you followed your heart...
ReplyDeleteOmg I love this because I went through something like that when I first got married (they're too young! they're too different! It will never last!) 13 years later and still going strong, I hope to make it to your milestone and go to Pismo too! I love Pismo!
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