...as a child, yes. Definitely. All the time. I grew up in a world of "being seen, and not heard". I was taught right from wrong and basically had to live by the rules of the house I lived in. As a kid, I didn't know any better, so I conformed. I didn't want to create any trouble, but then again, I didn't get to do much and really didn't have a mind of my own until I grew up and started to experience the world.
I guess that happened in college. From that point forward, I started to buck the system.
Today, as an adult, I enjoy the fact that I don't have to live by the house rules, but by my own rules. At work, I do what I am suppose to do and if in doubt, ask. I still have opinions but I stick to what I know and do it very well. But outside of work, I am my own person and I make my own rules and live my life the way I see fit.
While I think that it is healthy to have a difference of opinion, sometimes you will never agree on things, so my motto in that circumstance is "to agree to disagree". My husband and I don't always agree on things, but I don't expect it. And I don't always agree with my parents either. But today, I am not afraid to speak up...to anyone.
And no matter what, I'm never going to be on the backburner again.
Wishing you moments to put yourself on the front burner!
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And I think that is for the most part, a very good thing. There are, however, times when it is just best to keep your lips together and let an idiot do the speaking. You don't even have to listen. :-)
ReplyDeleteAgreed! I just sit there and usually laugh on the inside! :-)
ReplyDeleteI think that is the best thing about being an adult. It is certainly a perk of getting older. Great blog!
ReplyDeleteKathy
http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com
I guess being an adult is a bless after-all :-)
ReplyDeleteI was raised the same way. Eldest of 6 kids. I make my own rules now, and am thankful that my parents did have some rules and taught me well. I didn't get into any trouble, was safe etc. Sometimes I would wish for less strict parents, but now, I am happy I had the guidance. We were encouraged to think for ourselves, but to be respectful of others. My parents and I do not agree on some subjects, but we agree to disagree. Hubby and I are polar opposites on certain things as well. But the respect issue is key for peace and harmony.
ReplyDeleteGreat post Susan-- I'm glad that you are now able to make your own rules--and you are living life on your terms.
ReplyDeleteMy experience is quite different. I grew up very independent. Some say I grew up too soon. I also grew up with a lot of uncertainty. I could have gotten into a lot of trouble as a young kid--because I didn't have the tight rules that most of my friends grew up with--but I had a strong moral foundation and a Grandma that helped guide me. Thank God. Because I do see where it could have gone horribly wrong in many different points of my growing up.
Cheers, Jenn
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